The prospect of dating anew can seem incredibly daunting to even the most outgoing and confident person. And there is the added issue of just how do you meet someone?; Where can you go to meet new faces? It is all well and good when you are at college or university; there, you meet hundreds of people just by being in that environment. The same is true when you start a new job in a big organization. When you are married and have children you get to know other mums and dads through their children; but this doesn't help you if you have been in the same job for a few years, your children have grown up and you've just gotten divorced. All of your friends are couples. Now what do you do? How do you get onto the dating start line, let alone "get past go"?
Not only are you a bit rusty vis-à-vis chatting up or flirting with relative strangers, you have to step outside your familiar environment, and therefore your comfort zone, in order to meet a new circle of people. And underneath all this there is the possibility that you may feel a loss of confidence or self-worth depending on how or why your previous relationship came to an end.
Thus your goal as a relationship seeker is to overcome any loss of self esteem so as to be even more confident than usual, thereby enabling yourself to take those steps into a fresh new world. Some would say that confidence comes once you meet that fresh face or enter that new relationship, and I agree with this; your confidence will soar once you are involved in a relationship once more….but if you remain within your current comfort zone and merely wait for somebody new to find you there, you could die waiting for that to happen; unless you got really lucky, that is. You have to enter a new arena in order to increase your chances of meeting new people.
That new arena doesn’t mean moving to another country, or changing your job (unless you wish to do so of course). It could involve taking up a new hobby or sport, or getting involved in some sort of social work or club, or joining a dating agency either on or off the net; Ask yourself the question “What could I do, and where could I go where there are going to be lots of new faces?” Spend some time thinking about the things that you are interested in but maybe haven’t had the time for in the past. Write a list of all the things you might like to do or see. There’s no point doing something you don’t like doing, or that you aren’t interested in; after all, you are hoping to meet someone who has things in common with you.
I’m a great believer that a dating agency is a brilliant way in which to meet people. Many people have an aversion to these organizations; they feel you must be a “loser” if you have to resort to that, or fear that they may meet a con artist. I say that if you are lonely, and want to meet someone, you are a loser if you don’t try in the most obvious places. Not only that, everyone else that joins such an agency is in the same position as you – you immediately have something in common. And you can just as easily meet a con artist in your local market as you can through a dating agency. Just because you have joined an internet dating site doesn’t mean that your address and phone number is available to all and sundry or that a rapist is going to leap out of your computer screen and onto your lap!
Another benefit to a dating agency is the sheer number of opportunities it provides for you to meet people, to practice getting to know someone and to practice “rejection”; not everyone is going to be a perfect “fit” for you and you can practice accepting that this is not in actual fact rejection, just a lack of it being a good fit.
You can make your own mind up about how you are going to meet new people, but before you go out there you can prepare yourself for success by building your confidence and raising your expectations as high as they can go. You may have heard something to the effect that whatever you expect to happen does indeed happen; and this is very true. You must be able to imagine yourself chatting up girls in order to be able to do it; you need to be able to visualize yourself flirting before you are able to flirt. You only have to feel attractive or sexy in order to be attractive and sexy. The key is in changing how you think about yourself. As you change how you think, this causes you to change how you feel and then your actions reflect this change aswell.
Change is easy with hypnosis. Hypnosis is normal and natural and allows access to your inner mind – that place where your beliefs about yourself are stored. You can change your beliefs, and feel comfortable, confident, attractive, sexy and self assured, quickly and easily with the use of hypnosis; and this can be done at home, simply by listening to a hypnosis recording. Then, once you have done this, you will be in the best position as you leave that start line and enter the dating arena, expecting, and achieving success.
Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis mp3 downloads to build confidence and enjoy dating again.
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